You know when I was still pregnant I used to ask myself if I’m going to be a good mother or not? I wanted so badly to be better that I’d even google things that I expected to happen, and how I’d tackle them until I became a mother. That was when I realised a perfect mother does not exist.
You probably thinking, “She’s crazy, I know of mother’s who are nailing this motherhood role.” Believe me when I tell you that they are not in any way perfect or even close to that.
I mean let’s just be real here and this defines perfectly. The Oxford English dictionary defines perfect as, “having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be. ” So which mother do you know, was born to be a mother? None really, we all just wing it and get better as we each day goes by.
So, what’s the closest thing to being perfect? It’s honestly just being the best you can be. I’m just here today to encourage you. I’m here to let you know that no matter how many mistakes you make as a mother, what matters is that you learn and ask for help when you need to. We tend to be so hard on ourselves because we just want everything to go accordingly but not everything does and when that happens, what do you do mommy? Do you sit around and feel sorry for yourself blaming yourself and think you are such a bad mother (I know I have, quite a lot and I’ve only been a mother for 14months) or do you give yourself time to understand why, how you made that mistake then go on to what you can do to try and prevent yourself from making that mistake? That’s a decision we have to make on a regular basis as mothers because no matter how much you plan your day and how your child will be, it can never go your way all the time.
Another thing to do is ASK. Ask for help, ask for advice and tips, ask for anything that you do not know or understand. There are many ways to do this in this day and age, you can ask your family, Mr Google, or even other mom blogs. Information is available to us everywhere thanks to the internet.
So mommy, you can never be perfect as a mother, I mean that’s like trying to have a perfect life which is impossible but what you are and always will be is the BEST mom you can ever be to your beautiful bundle of joy.
What lessons reminded you that you just can’t plan out everything to the tea when raising your young one?