I’ve always heard people say that for a relationship to work once you have a child, then you need to first put your happiness as a couple first! As a result you will be able to raise a happy child, I totally agree!
You see the thing is, once that little person comes they expect all your love, time and attention. That takes away from time spent together as a couple. You focus so much on ensuring the child is well taken care of that you end up forgetting about your relationship. I know it from experience because I neglected my relationship so much after my baby Q was born. I wanted to perfect my new role as a mother so badly that I totally abandoned my role as a partner. It took alot of strain on my relationship because we simply had no time together and the little time we did had, I’d be spending talking about her.
That continued for quite a while until at some point I had to force myself to acknowledge that I just wasn’t making time for us.
It wasn’t easy at first, but as I kept trying it got better. It slowly took me back to who we were as a couple before baby came along.
I’d advise you to take these steps I took! Firstly, you need to start by asking about him, how his day was, how he feels and actually listen, don’t disturb but listen to him as he speaks about himself. Start going out even if it’s just once a week for two hours and when you go on that date, girl! Don’t dare even say your babies name, let the baby be none existent for that two hours. Whoever you will have left to stay with the child is someone you trust, so let go just for a few hours. Another thing, try and get baby to sleep early if you guys stay together, wear that sexy number and have date nights.
Basically, work on your relationship and once you do that, your partner will meet you halfway and you can tackle bringing up this little human together in a happy, warm and loving environment.
Did you ever struggle with bringing sexy back after baby was born? Or was there ever a point where you felt as though your relationship has lost the spark you had before baby was born? Maybe take a step back find out how you can change that.
Remember happy couple equals happy baby!